Changing my style. How does this sound?

I%26#039;m 19 years old, student in university, no girlfriend yet. I think it%26#039;s because of how I present myself. Personally, I don%26#039;t even know myself (MMOs ruined my life, and I am learning who I am again).





Right now I look average, this is what I%26#039;m going to do:





1. Change clothing to %26#039;casual%26#039;.. polo shirts, overall more expensive wear


2. Use a cologne, probably Aqua di Gio, Hugo, Sean Jean or something similar


3. Get professional advice on my hair style - I think it%26#039;s okay now but it can improve


4. I started working out, and in 4 months I%26#039;ll have muscles and a 6pack


5. I%26#039;m starting to take martial art classes and get more involved with sports





am I going to be fine?

Changing my style. How does this sound?
try it out, its all about being comfortable
Reply:it%26#039;s fine to change the outside, just make sure the inside is just as put together
Reply:I don%26#039;t think that will do much for you. You are however the same person. If you want to attract a woman with your facade aura, I don%26#039;t think you%26#039;ll appreciate her enough since she fell for your looks oppose to who you really are. The sad thing is that you%26#039;re doing this all for presentation. Are you serious into these things or is it just based on conformity. Which brings up the fact that expensive wear does not equate being better dressed. You%26#039;re just really conditioned into moving in the wind of the market and based on what you see.
Reply:If those changes sound good to you, then do them. I think they sound rather superficial and they won%26#039;t change who you are on the inside.





Just be yourself. College girls like that!
Reply:You%26#039;ll be fine.
Reply:yeah, man, you%26#039;ll be good. you can%26#039;t just sit around and expect girls to swarm you, though. start to talk to some of the girls in your classes.
Reply:Do what makes you comfortable. Just be yourself.
Reply:Yes, you%26#039;ll be fine. You%26#039;ll be fine because you care about your looks and style... not because you%26#039;re wearing a certain cologne or whatever. Remember, you need to find a %26quot;style%26quot; that YOU are comfortable with. Don%26#039;t rely so much on what others think. But being able to make adjustments is healthy. Just be careful not to obsess about it, and you%26#039;ll be fine.





And remember: your character is much more important than the brand of your shirt or cologne. Make sure your heart is good and honest. That%26#039;s what a woman really wants. Nice cologne %26amp; attractive clothes are just gravy.





HTH.
Reply:Your hard work is very admirable, but you still need a personality. That means you have to find things you are interested in, and then socialize with like minded people.
Reply:Oh for sure! Don%26#039;t spend too much, but also remember not to lose yourself in this. There are always three qualities that girls go for, Honesty, Outgoing, and Humor.
Reply:Building muscle is a great way to improve self confidence.


Learning a Martial Art is an excellent discipline in control.


Using cologne can backfire. I hate a guy who smells too strong! Try a scented body shower gel, and get the same scent as your anti perspirant. You will smell good but not overpowering. Polo shirts are gay. No really, I think they look stupid, and can%26#039;t believe that they are actually being replayed from the dreadfully dressed 80%26#039;s era. Can%26#039;t go wrong with an Aloha shirt with a white tee shirt and jeans. This exudes the aire of relaxed and ready for what life%26#039;s gonna toss at you.
Reply:Wow! Thats enough to impress me! Yet whatgirls are mostly attracted to is confidence. If you are confident and comfortable in your own skin it shouldnt matter what you where your personality will definetly stand out and thats what attracts girls. Good Luck :)
Reply:yep, you%26#039;ll be a stud- you go boyfriend!
Reply:Number 4 or 5 sounds reasonable enough, but ditch everything else (though if you wear clothes different from all thet other guys you might consider something more similar to them--usually a simpler attire is best). Girls aren%26#039;t attracted to guys with good style or cologne. They are attractive to a confident, %26quot;bad *** but essentially nice%26quot; guys who are charming, Funny, and usually good-looking. Don%26#039;t try to change yourself for what you think will attract others.


You have to like yourself before anyone else will like you. That means working on your personality and accepting yourself for who you are. Are you shy? Strike up more conversations. Are you a passive guy? Practice saying no when you need to. You catch my drift. I know you say you have a great personality...so use it! Let the girls know you have it!


p.s. Good job getting out of MMOs. Or if not, keep it to one hour a day max. If you can%26#039;t, try cold turkey or other games that aren%26#039;t as addictive.
Reply:Personally, I think what you are doing is just a waste of time and effort. No offense!





Do you realize that what you are doing at the moment is creating a completely new person. It%26#039;s simply not you. I know it sounds confusing, cause you are still physically you after the changes. But it%26#039;s not the natural you. Think about it, if those characters are you, you would already have them and not having to change into them.





Just be who ever you have always been! Be yourself!